reflection: The Last Lecture

I read it cover to cover between dinner and bedtime, alternating tears and laughter, laughter and tears.

So many connections--and not just the pancreatic cancer diagnosis at 46 (the author's, Daddy's):

• Places: Kimberly's Carnegie Mellon and Jamie's UVA (they were there at the same time . . . did their paths ever cross?) and even eastern Virginia and Chapel Hill


• Ideas: artificial intelligence and rocket science


• Obsessions: Star Trek (my brother's collector passion) and Disney (my office mate's collector passion)


• Bringing three beautiful children into this world of ours


• Winning the parent lottery: a WWII military father we love to quote and a mother who unerringly keeps our cockiness in check--parents who paired frugality in possessions with riches in learning.


• Being "a doctor but not the kind who helps people"
  

The chapter that opens with the dreams of an 8-year-old that summer man first walked on the moon is bittersweet. My first child, Daddy's wanting to live through that same summer (he did), a husband shipped off to war, moving home, growing up overnight, locking away childhood dreams. . .

But parallel dedications (his book, my dissertation) acknowledge our belief in the value of dreams. His childhood dreams and those he hopes his children will create. My father nurtured my dreams; my mother molded in me the courage to live them. And we have come to understand, this author and I, that the greatest good we can do in our limited time here is to enable the dreams of others . . .

I could have used his wikipedia story on Monday when introducing a group of colleagues to wikis. I'll give them his book instead.

And make time to dust off my locked-away childhood dreams, the few that haven't worked their way back to consciousness, to realization.

Thank you, Randy!